Photos: Day one, just born; looking cute with new halter; getting big; opinionated girl; and kisses between Bessie and her daughter
Charming is still here. That wasn't in the plans. And of course, Bessie and her calf Caspian. They aren't going anywhere.
Ruby was picked up today. We're down to three.
For the first time since cows arrived in January 2012, we don't have a heifer (a female cow which hasn't had a calf yet). First there was Lucy, who moved to Ohio. Then it was Bessie's own daughter, Ruby, who is en route to her new home. No heifer means that it will be more difficult to guess the timing for breeding Bessie (female cows are fairly reliable in their reactions to another female in heat, which is when you call the vet for the artificial insemination) Fun facts to know, but important for what we're doing here.
Ruby is now on her way to North Carolina. We sent her off with apples offered through the trailer window just before she left---some from us (the old owners) and some from the new family, a nice symbolic transition, I'd like to think.
Despite a snowstorm with travel advisories, despite the gates being frozen shut and needing to be shoveled out, despite the flat tire and trouble with trailer lights on their way out here, Ruby left our farm today in a roomy trailer for her new home. Strange to think that, even as soon as the trailer pulled into our driveway from the livestock gated area, she was farther into the big wide world than she'd been in her whole life......
Her new owner first saw her and the typical reaction to seeing Ruby was the same as some of you have said: "Wow! She's pretty big!" But she talked to Ruby, went up close and didn't give an inch when Ruby rolled her eyes and tried to back away. That's probably what I should have done all along. Instead of chalking it up to "cow attitude", I could have persevered and taught that heifer to stand still and like it. But that would mean letting Bessie's cow attitude prevail instead, and I had to choose one to train and the other to raise, when I think back on it. I needed a good working relationship with Bessie. I needed Ruby to respect me, but we weren't to the "working" part of it yet.
So here are some memories of Ruby's growing-up years here.
We expected her to arrive in June of 2012, sometime (anytime?), just 5 months after her mother and another heifer came to our farm. We waited, and waited, and then a heat wave and drought struck, and then it was the 4th of July and no longer June, and then.....I called the vet to come out and check her mother Bessie on the morning of July 6. Ruby was ready to be born, and sure enough, the vet declared that it would only be a few hours.
I stood and watched in wonder, ready to step in (not knowing exactly what I would do), but Bessie was a champ and needed no help.
Jeremy's first comment on seeing wet, tiny helpless Ruby was that she looked like a goat.
She wasn't helpless for long, though, and within an hour was up, tottering around on stilty legs, nursing, and then trying in vain to scamper.
Her favorite thing was nursing from Bessie, but the FUN thing that nothing else could beat was running in the pasture with Lucy, the other heifer. They spent hours kicking their heels up, dashing from one end of the pasture to the other, tails kinked in the air or ducking their heads as they crashed under the low-hanging branches of the white pine groves. Lucy was the favorite aunt, while Bessie was the over-protective parent.
One of the funniest things we'll remember? Her long giraffe tongue. If you came towards her with an apple or treat, she would reach her tongue out through the fence and try to feel her way to the treat in your hand (she did this when her new owner offered her an apple in the trailer today.) That long tongue meant that the low-hanging branches in the pasture were stripped bare of any leaves for 2 summers. I wonder if the tree-trimming will be continued by Caspian, if he's here that long?
One of the loudest things we'll remember? Her bellow. When she was in heat, when she thought she could demand yet another pumpkin, when we were mowing the grass, when we pulled in to the driveway. When she heard me inside the barn at night, tucking in the other animals, and she thought she needed more hay. When the water trough ran dry and she thought she needed to trumpet her disgust at our thoughtlessness to the farming community.
I suppose she wasn't too much louder than any other dairy heifer, but her mama is much quieter, so Ruby sounded like a beast gone wild sometimes compared to Bessie's soft "moo".
The most precious things? When she would come up to us in the pasture, or stick her head in the way as we tried to smash open a pumpkin for her to eat, or poked her whole head through the hole in the barn wall as I tried to feed her, or stood stock-still to be brushed. She loved-loved-LOVED to be brushed.
Something annoying? How she would come running towards me and I'd need to have my hand up in the sign "STOP", wondering if I'd need to use that same hand to smack her on the forehead for cutting it too close. Once, there was an ice slick between where I was standing and her path towards me. She saw my hand go up, slipped and went down, and slid right up to the edge of that ice slick. Neither of us was hurt, and she got up and acted as "I meant to do that." No, on second thought, that was kind of endearing after all.
What I won't miss? Having two grown female cows in a small enclosed area, when one of them is in heat. I think my life may have been in danger (exaggeration) a few times as they did their keep-a-way-from-each-other dance while I dodged hooves or stayed out from between them. Or the seemingly enormous amount of feed that two adult cows go through. Or the way she pushed Charming around when she wanted the pumpkin all to herself. Or how she wanted milk so badly sometimes that we finally had to tether her inside of the stall at night so she couldn't escape (not her fault--we built the sides too low).
What I WILL miss? Her pretty face, the white spot on her forehead, her tiny little heifer-sized udder, how sleek and beautiful she is, and seeing her blossom into a mama cow with an adorable baby to care for.
We knew from the beginning that we couldn't keep her, but if we'd had even 3 more acres, we could have tried......it just wasn't meant to be and this is a happy kind of sad, even though there are tears in my eyes.
She's going to a farm where she'll be taken care of, where they value the Dutch Belted breed and want to help preserve it, where she will probably be given better care than if she'd stayed here with me.
My heart belongs to Bessie when it comes right down to it (at least as far as cows are concerned), and Ruby needs to have someone caring for her and training her in the way I can only do with one cow. I could train her, I could work with her, I could put in hours getting her used to the stanchion and handling her and preparing her to be a family milk cow. But she'd still be moved on to someone else's farm after all that extra time. Think of all the projects that I should be working on, which would be put aside to do the right thing for this heifer!
For me, Bessie is "it". For Ruby's new family, she had a place in their hearts from before they even saw her photo. We loved Ruby, and it was time to let someone else take over what we started, so they can love her too.
Dear opinionated Ruby,
I hope that you go on to have a wonderful life with lots of belted calf babies and years of milking and plenty of care and love. Your Christmas present this year is a new farm, with a family who already loves you. And know that you'll be missed back here on this tiny farm where you were our very first calf. You'll always hold a special place in our hearts.
Laura
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